WARNING SIGNS: What are the signs of domestic abuse?
Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive. In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.
Domestic violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to gain and maintain power and control over their partners.

Watch out for these red flags:​​
  • ​​Tells you that you can never do anything right

  • Monitors what you're doing all the time

  • Unfairly accuses you of being unfaithful all the time

  • Shows jealousy of your friends and time spent away

  • Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members

  • Embarrasses or shames you with put-downs

  • Humiliates you in front of others

  • Controls every penny spent in the household or how you spend your money

  • Takes your money or refuses to give you money for expenses

  • Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you

  • Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do

  • Preventing you from making your own decisions

  • Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children​​

  • Prevents you from working or attending school

  • Destroys your property or things that you care about

  • Threatens to hurt or kill you, the children or pets

  • Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons

  • Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with

  • Controls your birth control or insists that you get pregnant

  • Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

  • Controls your use of needed medicines

  • Becomes very angry during and after drinking alcohol or using drugs

  • Hurts you (by hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, or biting)

  • Blames you for his or her violent outbursts

  • Threatens to harm himself or herself when upset with you

  • Says things like, "If I can't have you then no one can."

UNDERSTANDING THE
CYCLE OF ABUSE

Abuse is a cycle. Learn to identify the signs of abuse.

WHAT IS
​DOMESTIC ABUSE?

What constitutes domestic abuse and what can I do about it?

AVAILABLE
RESOURCES

Includes a list of available resources and assistance as well as emergency contacts.

​​If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please contact 911 right away!